The “Rules” for Body Confidence and Positivity

*This is a repost that will hopefully respark your confidence for the new year!  Here’s to an incredible 2020!!!

We’ve been talking a lot about body confidence and body positivity for the past year on this blog.  It occured to me the other day, that not everyone has this and may not even know what the heck it is.

How do you achieve body confidence?  I mean, there are so many things out there working against you.  The photoshopped models in magazines, fat shaming celebrities on the internet and on television, weight loss “solutions” in infomercials, trolls leaving comments on just about everything, things like Leslie Jones actually having trouble getting a designer to work with her for the “Ghostbusters” premiere (Christian Siriano, for the win!)

I put the word, “rules” in quotes because this blog will never, and I mean, never, write rules for how to go about your life, express yourself and conduct your business.  This blog is not the destination for that, but I did think a list of “rules” for achieving that body confidence would be helpful.  I know that some of them were a nice reminder to me, so I hope you get some benefit from them as well.  Here we go!

  • Stop all talk about “flaws” or hiding anything.  As many different people as there are in the world, that is how many different types of looking people there are.  Some have freckles, some do not, some have birthmarks, some do not, etc.  These things are what make you, you.  They are not flaws.  I’ll give you an example.  I have a double-chin.  Do I like it?  Hell, no!  I’ve worked very hard to learn how to pose in pictures so that it doesn’t show.  Is it a flaw?  Hell, no!  It is part of my face.  You don’t have to like all the parts of you, but don’t refer to any part of you as a “flaw”.  Got it?  Good.
  • Be honest with yourself about who you are and what you look like.  I am a plus size, 49 year old woman.  I have a big butt.  I have a tummy pooch.  I love my butt, but don’t like my tummy.  I’m never going to be built like Scarlett Johannson.  She’s already taking care of that job nicely.  My job is to look like Kim, the single mom who is 49 and plus sized.  Once I let go of the “wish I looked like…”, I was free.
  • Take good care of your health.  That means feeding your body, your spirit and your soul.  That means movement everyday.  You don’t have to go to the gym everyday, but get out and do something everyday.  Go get your check-ups.  Get to know your body and how it works.  Be mindful.
  • Stop saying that you will wear the thing or do the thing after “you lose the weight” or “get skinny”.  Do not deny life and the joys of it to yourself.  Get that dress you want in the size you are now and enjoy life already!  Go on that vacation now and take that dress with you!
  • When you look in the mirror or see photos of yourself, no more negative talk.  Only positive is allowed.  This one is important.  This one is also hard.  We all seem to be hard wired to be so mean to ourselves.  I still fall into this trap from time to time.  I have to be mindful and stop myself.  It is worth it.
  • From now on, no article of clothing is off limits to you.  Do you like leggings?  Wear leggings.  There are websites that sell them in your size.  Yes, there are!  Send me a comment, and I guarantee you I will be able to get you to a site that sells them in your size.  Never say, “I wish I could wear _____.”  Instead, say, You CAN wear _______.
  • Take the fashion rule book and throw it away.  No white after Labor Day.  Whatever!  Wear what you want, when you want.  No mini-skirts after age 35.  Heck with that!  I like my legs.  I wear a mini skirt whenever I want.  Yourself, your body, your rules.  You are fabulous!
  • Take ALL the selfies.  Delete the crap ones and keep the good ones.  Find articles like this one and use the tips.  Post them on Insta and Facebook and Twitter.  People say you’re vain.  So what?  Unfollow them.  Delete their comments.  Let them go.  That is their negativity.  They have to own it and figure out how to discard it and live their life.  You already have a job.  Take care of you.
  • Never EVER feed the trolls.  You are giving them what they want.  Don’t do it, kids!  Delete and block and move on.

I hope these tips help you get to a place where you feel nice and comfy with yourself, everyday.  We all have our “bad hair days”, but loving yourself and being your biggest fan, well, it is worth it.

Send us your selfies and your “rules” in the comments.  We love hearing from you!

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Scout

InPlainSight.style is off for the Holidays!

As the holidays rapidly approach, Benji and I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a joyous holiday season and a happy new year!

As we enter the roaring 20’s, please stay tuned for new content, DIY’s and adventures!

Thank you all for your support these past four years!  Here’s to a great new year!

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Love, Kim and Benji

Thanksgiving Break: Part Two

For the second part of our Thanksgiving break recap, we have a pile of photos taken at Funko Headquarters in Hollywood.  Enjoy!

My dress is from Torrid.  Benji’s t-shirt is from Hot Topic.

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Let us see the photos you take at Funko!  We love to hear from you!

Love, Kim and Benji

Thanksgiving Break: Part One

Benji and I had a fantastic Thanksgiving break this year!  LA was hit by a massive storm for much of the weekend, so instead of warm butterbeer at Universal, we saw some movies out and watched some of our favorite holiday movies as well.

For Thanksgiving Day, we continued our new tradition of going to Medieval Times for dinner.  We had a fantastic time!

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Medieval Times has a new show, with a twist, so I will say no more, but it was a lot of fun!

So glad we bought two photos, so we could take a nice one after the goofy one:

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The day after our dinner adventure, we went to the new Funko Headquarters in Hollywood.

The headquarters is a store and also full of endless photo ops.  Admission is free, and we cannot recommend going enough!

Here is a photo of the map and also a photo of a special limited edition print they were selling…

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Here are a couple of photos from the day.  In our next post, we will post the rest of them.  Enjoy!

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Until next time…

Love, Kim and Benji

InPlainSight.style is on a mini-vacay

Just an fyi, we are on a mini-vacay this week and next to attend Dapper Day weekend at Disneyland and Dressed to the 9 3/4 Day at Universal Hollywood!

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As you can imagine, we are in hard-core prep-mode, so we are taking a post vacation.

We will be back in mid-November with new content!

Until then, Happy Dapper Day!!!

Love, Kim and Benji

A Trip to Son of Monsterpalooza and Spookshow

Recently, we went to a couple of horror-themed shows and conventions in the LA area.

 

The first was Son of Monsterpalooza in Burbank.  This was a first for both of us.  The kiddo and I have never been to a horror-themed convention before.  I enjoyed this show a lot.  I was impressed with the celebrity meet and greets offered by the show.  Furthermore, the celebrities are at their tables and you just walk up and chat, get autographs and photos.  No lines, no lotteries, no fuss.

I made a couple of nice purchases on the floor.  This purse from Rock Rebel and this cat dress by Kreepsville 666.  Click on links to peruse their sites.

 

The second show was Spookshow at Halloween Club in Orange County.  This show was an outside horror-themed flea market in their parking lot and the huge Halloween Store had almost everything marked down.

This show had free admission, which was nice, but there were far fewer vendors and the store was pretty junky and crowded.

Here are some photos from the show floor and the lot at Spookshow.

 

I did get these sunnies at the show, but the vendor doesn’t have a website for you to check out, unfortunately.

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But, most importantly, me and the kiddo had a lovely day out, which is why we do what we do!

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Until next time…

Love, Kim and Benji

Find It Here: Halloween Decor

It is finally, FINALLY Halloween decorating time!

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Well, to be honest, I decorated the last weekend in September, but for most normal people, it is time to decorate for Halloween.

Here are some great pictures of our Halloween decor and some shopping links to peruse and buy some great decor for your own lair.

The moon “wreath” is from Spirit Halloween.  The black dragon is from Big Lots.  The little green one is from Michael’s.  The cauldrons, broom and doormat are also from Spirit Halloween.  The funkins are from Michael’s.

The items on the mantel are mostly from Target, but some are from Michael’s and Dollar Tree.  The ghost light, bat light and reaper figure are from Target.

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The google eye figures, cauldron and witch hat light are from Target.  The glitter pumpkins and velvet pumpkin are both from Michael’s.

Not all items are available anymore, so our shopping links are to each store’s Halloween Store pages so you can go from there.  If I find specific links, I will put them in the picture descriptions above for you.

Happy Shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji