A Story of Fire and Ice

No, not THAT one! This is a story about a tube of lipstick and how it is a connection to the happiest and most influential time in my childhood.

When I was a girl, I was fortunate enough to have Doris Fulford as my Grandmother. Doris wore Revlon’s Fire and Ice lipstick exclusively.  Click here to get your own tube on Amazon!

Photo: Vintage Ad by Revlon

As you can see from the picture, Fire and Ice is a fantastic red lipstick that has been a Revlon staple since the 50s. Everyone should have a go-to red lipstick. Doris taught me that.

I got to borrow her lipstick and compact. When we were at home only, of course. I mean, a little girl wearing a red lip out in public “just wouldn’t do”. I felt pretty. I felt glamourous, just like her.

Doris had beautiful framed, top-clasp handbags all with matching shoes, which I would put on my tiny feet and shuffle around the house. Doris had hankerchiefs and hats. Doris wore gloves to church on Sundays. Doris had a group of friends with names like, “Madge” (her best friend’s actual name, by the way). They went to church, played bridge and went to the beauty shop together.

I drank all this in like a sponge. Just being around these ladies made me feel so glamourous! I was fussed over, but ignored just enough that I could employ my Dian Fosseyesque skills and observe and study. The Southern lady in her natural habitat…OBSERVE!

I got to wear dresses and spend time with them at the beauty shop. I was indulged and allowed to sit under one of those industrial size hair dryers that probably picked up signals from Sputnik. Cool air, of course, with a “Redbook” magazine to flip through with a very serious expression on my face. I mean, “Redbook” was serious business. So glamourous!

Which brings me back to the tube of lipstick. I carry it with me everywhere. Whether I go with a red lip that day or not. It reminds me of Doris, the bags with matching shoes, large hairdryers and the glamourousness it all entailed.

We all lost Doris in the early 80s, unfortunately. The example she set, however, was not lost. I grew up and fashion and beauty remained a huge part of my life. My kid and I started cosplaying, and then started a nerd fashion blog together.

I’d like to think that Doris would be proud of me and what I’ve accomplished. I couldn’t have done it without her.

Love, Kim and Scout

Happy Holidays!

We are working on so many amazing new things for our 4th year of raisingaheronotavillain.com!

We are going to have all kinds of new content for you.

Find out what’s behind that door in the new year.

We will re-join you after the holidays.

Until then, Happy and Merry!

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Love, Kim and Scout

Echo Look

We recently bought a new toy for the blog, the Echo Look by Amazon.

As you can see by the video, this device is perfect for all beauty bloggers, fashion bloggers and Instagrammers.

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Once you set up the device and use your phone’s camera to frame the photos, all you have to do is say, “Alexa, take a picture.”  The device will light your photo and take the picture.  It automatically goes to your app.  From the app, you can save the photo, compare it with other looks and share with any of your socials.  The device also has a camera and mic off button so you can mute the device for privacy.

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The free app to accompany the device allows you to keep your looks and organize them by color and style.

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The last feature is Style Check.  You put in two of your looks and style experts weigh in on which outfit looks better on you.

So far, I really love it.  Next up will be the first looks taken by Echo Look from my new closet room, a project I will outline when it is finally finished.

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Scout

*All photos and video: amazon.com

 

 

Halloween Decor on a Budget

In my humble opinion, it is never too early to decorate for Halloween.

Because I started a new job this year, I didn’t have any Halloween decorations, so I hit the stores to get some new ones.

All the decorations on these pages are from either the Dollar Spot at Target or from Dollar Tree.  Total spent was $21.  I’ve put links to each store on this post, but to get the discounted items, please visit the stores in person.

Happy Halloween in advance…

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Love, Kim and Scout

 

Witch Kits

*Update: Pinrose will no longer be offering this kit, but I feel the discussion should still be had.

There has been a lot of talk recently about Sephora‘s latest offering.  In October, cosmetic company, Pinrose, will be offering a Beginner’s Witch Kit.  The kit includes tarot cards, rose quartz, sage and a variety of essential oils.  The link above is to Sephora’s website, the kit isn’t up on the site just yet.  Just do a search for Pinrose in October to get your own online.

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When this was announced, my fellow witches (I’m an ecclectic urban witch, fyi) had a collective fit about it.  While I respect their opinions, I don’t understand the ire.  I think, and this is just my assumption, is that they feel the practice of the craft is not being taken seriously by this company.  I can see where that assumption could be made.  However, I think we are getting into “fake witch” shaming territory here, which could take us into a very negative direction.  I’m reminded of all the times I’ve been accused of being a “fake geek girl” because I didn’t know the minute detail that this particular person was talking to me about.  I feel shamed everytime this happens, and I don’t want to be “that witch” that shames someone for reaching out and exploring the craft for themselves.

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Spell Kits from Psychic Eye Bookstore

Hear me out.  If someone is alone in their desire to learn more about the metaphysical or magick or whatever spirituality, they may not know where to start.  Perhaps they feel comfortable shopping at Sephora.  They see the kit.  They want to know more.  They buy the kit, take it home and then once they feel more comfortable, then they go to their local metaphysical store to ask questions.  Now they know what questions to ask!  They buy books and become more schooled in things.  Their friends notice a positive change in their energy.  They ask about that change.  This new witch passes on her knowledge and so on.

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Kit available on Amazon

Now, I realize that the preceeding paragraph was a “best case” scenario.  Will there be people just embracing this as a fad?  Absolutely!  You have people jumping on bandwagons for pretty much everything.  There’s no stopping that.  I just hope that my fellow witches don’t throw out beginners that really want to explore and learn magick for themselves.  I don’t think anyone can say that there is only one right way to get started.  Just get started.  After all, there are beginning witch kits available everywhere from metaphysical stores like Psychic Eye to Etsy and Amazon.

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Kit from Etsy

I do have a recommendation for those of you that are interested in the craft and how to practice it.  This wonderful book.  It is available on Amazon.

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“Wiccapedia” has tips from everything from setting up your altar, minerals and their uses, oils and herbs and their uses, basic casting and a history of Wicca and Paganism as a religious practice.  This book is something I revisit on the regular to get answers to questions or to just reconnect with the practice.

So, if you see someone purusing the shelves at Sephora and pick up a kit, don’t give them a hard time.  Don’t be a gatekeeper.  It might have been really hard for them to do that.  Encourage their curiosity and embrace them as your sister/brother in magick.  So mote it be!

Love, Kim and Scout

Ashley Eckstein’s New Book

At last month’s SDCC, we attended the Her Universe Fashion Show, as always.  The goody bags at that show are always amazing!  This year was no different.  We all got a free copy of Her Universe founder, Ashley Eckstein’s, new book, “It’s Your Universe”.

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Now that the dust has settled from SDCC, I picked up my copy and gave it a quick read.  I was pleasantly surprised to find that it is not only a memoir of sorts, but also a workbook so you can get to work on your own story.

At the end of each section, there is a section for you to work on your own thoughts, ideas, dreams, whatever.  There are exercises such as make an action plan to reach your goals and jot down those little ideas that pop into your head that can turn into big ideas and dreams for your future.  Eckstein encourages you to write in the book and make it your own kind of dream journal.

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The illustrations by Ashley Taylor are really beautiful as well.  I would love to have several of these in a frameable format!

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That is one thing that I’ve always liked about Eckstein.  She likes to not only share her journey, but guide you on a journey of your own.  The fashion show being a prime example.  The winners of that show get to design a line not only for Her Universe, but the line is sold in Hot Topic and Torrid stores worldwide!  Yes, it helps her company for sure, but makes new fashion stars in their own right.

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The book inspired me to put pen to paper and write down my ideas so that I can expand on them later on.  I now have a ton of projects that I’d like to tackle!  I have this on my desk now for inspiration, actually.

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The book is a very quick read, which I really liked.  I also liked the “all ages” aspect of it.  This is a great book to give to a child to encourage them to dream and make things happen.  The book takes a very relaxed approach to new ideas and projects you’d like to accomplish.  Let them flow.  Break ideas down into milestones.  Big ideas are a journey.  By teaching our kids to break down things into manageable goals, big ideas seem less daunting and achievable.

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Pick up your own copy of the book here.  Happy reading!

Love, Kim and Scout

*All photos from “It’s Your Universe” by Ashley Eckstein and Illustrations by Ashley Taylor.  Published by Disney Editions

 

Raising a Geek: Part One- Introducing Your Young Geek to Fandoms

For the weeks heading up to SDCC 2018, we are revisiting some of our best articles in regards to con attendance and cosplay.  Hope to see you in San Diego next month!

While this post isn’t expressly about fashion, it is about geekdom and raising up a new generation of geeks.  Part of that is teaching the kids about loving what you love without apology.  This confidence leads into body confidence and self-love, which will serve them well in the future.  Not to mention, you and your son or daughter can share great experiences in geekdom for years to come.

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I have a 12 year old daughter and she is thankfully into the exact same fandoms as I am.  I introduced her at a young age.  Every parent and every kid is different, so it up to you as to when and how to introduce your youngling into a fandom.  For me, I started with the fandom that started my life as a geek, Star Wars.

When I noticed that she could sit through a movie at home- that was when I introduced her to the Star Wars universe.  We started with Episode Four and took it from there.  I was also lucky in that “The Clone Wars” was on television at the time.  This was a great way to share a new part of the fandom with her.

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If you decide that you want to share a fandom with your kid, I suggest you find something where you can get excited about the new stuff together.  The Marvel universe has any number of ways to do this.  Animated series, leading to the feature films, weekly dramas, and of course comic books!  This is also a great way to get them excited about reading and will help with homework.  Get homework out of the way, and then you can watch this week’s “Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.”

If you find that your kid is really into it, then you can explore going to Cons and maybe even cosplay, which I will discuss in a later post.

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I’ve found that sharing this enthusiasm for geek culture has brought my daughter and I closer together.  She has a confidence and spirit that is amazing for a nine year old.  I feel like geek culture has given her that.  Kids are lucky these days since geekdom is more mainstream.  They don’t get the heat like we used to.  They can proudly wear their fandoms quite literally on their sleeves and not get bullied about it.  If they do get bullied, they will find back-up on the school yard from any number of kids that are into it as well.

We are also lucky in that we have several strong women characters to refer to when teaching our kids strength and confidence.  Showing them that beauty comes from their strength and ability to take care of themselves, not fitting into a certain jeans size.  Makes a Mom’s job easier.

Next time, I’ll discuss taking geekdom up a notch and taking your kid to a Con.  There is planning that must be done, Moms.  Until next time….

Love, Kim and Scout