Why I Decided to Get a Mobility Scooter

If you’ve ever met me in person, you know that I have mobility issues due to severe arthritis in my right knee.  I have tremendous pain when walking and standing.  I need, and will be getting, a knee replacement at some point, but until then, my pain took over my life.

While dealing with doctors, figuring out healthy ways to manage my pain and just plain old living life, I found myself starting to avoid doing the things I love.  I had to gear myself up for comic cons and theme parks- two of my favorite things to do.  I would go, spend that time in tremendous pain, and usually have to leave early.  When you take away the things that make you happiest and are in constant pain, it begins to have an effect on you, and not a good one.

These things also have a tendency to snowball.  Not going out means less invitations to go out in general.  Staying at home is isolating.  My pain got so bad I had to stop my workouts.  I have worked out on a regular schedule since I was in middle school, so stopping for the first time in my life has been depressing.  On top of all this, I’m a 52 year old woman, so that means menopause.  I found very quickly that menopause means weight gain.  So, the added weight and not being able to workout, made the pain even worse.

Thankfully I have a very smart kid…

He sat me down and just said, “Please get a scooter.  Then you can have some fun again.”  My first response was, “NEVER!”  Like you, I had the image of a lazy, fat and old person on a scooter at Disneyland.  I wasn’t that person, and darn it, I wasn’t going to become that person.  But here’s the thing…

That person does not exist.  I was taking a stand on a complete non-issue.  People on scooters have any number of conditions that make walking and standing impossible for them.  I was one of those stupid judgy people.  My thoughts were, if they were really disabled, they’d be in a wheelchair.  For me I thought, wheelchair=legit.  What an idiot I was!  So, I guess Karma came calling for me on this one.  Fair enough.

So, how was the first day out with the scooter?  Humbling.  Embarrassing.  For about 5 minutes.  I wheeled up to bag check and the trams to go to Disneyland, and realized that without the scooter, I would already be in severe pain, looking for the next opportunity to sit and gritting my teeth through the day, quietly gutting it out.  With the scooter, I was smiling and laughing with my kid and no pain!  I was looking forward to, and enjoying, a great day!  Believe me, your embarrassment disappears really fast when you’re out of pain and enjoying life again.

Now, I go all the places I used to go again!

Are there people that don’t want to be hanging out with someone traveling on a scooter?  Maybe, but I am pretty sure I haven’t met them yet.  My kid, a teenager, is not even a little embarrassed.  If anything, he wants me to get a side-car for him (um, yeah, No.)

So, I’m going to my first comic con with a scooter in April at WonderCon, which is daunting.  I am super anxious to roll into the con on my scooter, but I’m going to take care of myself.  If I run into an ex and they think me travelling on wheels to be amusing, well, they’re the asshole, not me.  If you see me, know that I’m grateful to not be on my feet, not due to laziness, but I am out of pain and can now participate in my life.  Turns out living my best life just needed a little transportation upgrade.

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Benji

 

My Interview with Plus Size Nerd about Body Confidence and Positivity!

I recently got to be interviewed by Plus Size Nerd on Facebook Live.

We talked about a few topics, but mainly my decision to get a mobility scooter to take back my life and get out in the world again.  Video is below.

If you have a sec, please give Plus Size Nerd a follow and a like!  Her site is full of great information; from style guides to realistic size guides.  What a great resource!

Thanks again to Plus Size Nerd for the interview!

Love, Kim and Benji

*Photo from plussizenerd.com

Shoes for Pin-Up/Dapper Styles

When you are prepping a new dapper look for a convention or just trying to accessorize a new dress, one key item you need to think about are shoes to complete your look.

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Here are a few styles that will work with vintage-inspired fashions.  All the choices are reasonably priced with shopping links below as well as photo examples.

The Ballet Flat

This style is perfect for not only dresses, but pedal-pushers or capri pants as well.  I’ve never been a big fan, because they have a tendency to give me a blister on my heels.  However, I just found this flat from Skechers that stays put.  The shoes also have more cushioning than the usual ballet flat.  Buy your Skechers ballet flat here.

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This shoe has a few different types as far as heel styles.  There are flat, block heeled and traditional heeled options.  I really love this block heeled version I got from Amazon.  They have padding on the inside and the block heel gives me lots of support.  Buy your  Block-heeled Oxford here.

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Classic Converse Chuck Taylors

This shoe is not only great for 50’s looks, but for 80’s, goth, punk or rock looks as well.  It is the ultimate casual shoe.  Now, while it is not padded on the inside, you can get insoles that provide support if you need it.  Chucks come in every color imaginable, and a high-top version as well.  Buy your classic Chucks here.

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Saddle Shoes

Besides the Chuck Taylors, the other shoe that leaps to mind when someone is thinking about vintage 50s fashions is the saddle shoe.  Named because the contrasting stripe resembles a saddle on the shoe.  You can get saddle shoes in a variety of colors and even high heel versions, but the classic black and white flat-heeled version is the best way to go.  Get your saddle shoes here.

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Saddle shoes aren’t the best for long days on your feet, so I created a comfy version from a white sneaker.  To create your own, will only take a few minutes of your time.  Click here for the how-to instructions.

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If you have any go-to styles for your dapper looks, please leave us a comment below.  We love to hear from you!

Until next time…

Love, Kim and Benji

Outfit of the Day: Aristocats Dress by The Disney Dress Shop

Our latest outfit of the day is the Aristocats pin-up dress by The Disney Dress Shop.

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I love the style of this dress so much!

 

The color of the dress is my favorite part.  I just love that the designer embraced the pink and ran with it.  The detailing on the skirt is also so beautiful.

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Like all Disney Dress Shop dresses, I love the fit!  It is a very fancy looking dress, but as comfortable as a t-shirt.  And…pockets!  I also love that they added sleeves to this one.  I hope they continue this trend with the new dresses.

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Pick up your own dress here.  The blue acrylic bag and shoes are from Amazon.  Sunglasses are a lucky find at the dollar store. Click links to purchase.

 

Happy shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

Fashion Alert: Snag Hosiery

I recently purchased some new biker shorts from a new company that I kept seeing on my Facebook and Instagram feeds, Snag Tights.

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They claim to be truly-size inclusive.  They also claim for maximum comfort.  They were honest in both of these claims.

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If you are plus-sized, like me, you are familiar with the struggle.  You get hosiery that claims to be plus-sized, and it just plain isn’t.  You followed their size guide with current measurements.  You are so full of hope, but you have to give yourself a hernia getting them on, then they slowly descend down your legs all day long.  Then you throw them in a drawer and never wear them again.  Money down the drain!

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When I received the shorts, I took them out of the package and audibly groaned.  Not again!  But, they really and truly do stretch.  The fabric stretches in all directions.  The shorts are pretty thin, so my next skeptic thought was, “OK, they fit, but will they stop chub rub situations?”  I wore them all day at Disneyland, and I am happy to say that they didn’t budge, no chub rub, I forgot I had them on.  Really.

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With a $13 price tag, which is way cheaper than Spanx, I cannot recommend these enough.

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One thing to note, unlike Spanx, these are not shapewear.  They alleviate VPL and chub rub, but they do not hold you in or smooth you.

One more positive thing to point out, they use all sizes, shapes, ages, abilities and races to advertise their products.  They take inclusiveness to a whole new wonderful level.

Go shopping for Snag products here.

Happy Shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

*All images us.snagtights.com

Outfit of the Day: Loki Dress from Her Universe

Our latest outfit of the day is the Loki pin-up dress by Her Universe for The Disney Dress Shop.

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I love this dress so much for so many reasons, but the stand-out reason is the detailing on the dress itself.

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The basket weave pattern at the waistline nips in my waist perfectly, without sacrificing any comfort.  The detailing on the skirt is so beautiful.  It is the perfect Loki bound dress.

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Like all Disney Dress Shop dresses, I love the fit!  It is a very fancy looking dress, but as comfortable as a t-shirt.  And…pockets!

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Pick up your own dress here.  The tesseract prop was a DIY.  Click here to make your own.  The horn headband, necklace, blue acrylic bag and shoes are all from Amazon.  Sunglasses are a lucky find at the dollar store. Click links to purchase.

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Happy shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

Quick Mini-Vacay to Disneyland

Benji had three weeks off for the holidays, and that last week, the poor kid was stuck in the house while I was at work during the day.  So, I asked for a couple days off, and we put our annual passes to good use.

While Disney is building the Avenger’s Campus over at Disney California Adventure, we decided to concentrate our time in Disneyland park, specifically, Star Wars Galaxy’s Edge.

I wore my new skirt from Her Universe featuring BB8 and D-O.  I paired it with Doc Martens and a gray tee.  I finished the look with a leather jacket from Torrid and my Millenium Falcon necklace from Amazon.  Then I found a great scarf/hood combo at the park and snagged it.  It is very Kylo Ren-inspired.  Inspired enough, that I got detained by Kylo himself.  I was eventually released with a stern warning.

For our pictures, I bought a kid’s lightsaber.  They are very reasonably priced at $32 and the blade is colored, which makes it great for pictures day or night.  They also have a shorter blade and are much lighter, which again, makes it great for pictures and for carrying it around the park all day.

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Benji tried on this jacket and immediately feel in love with it.  He also really liked this staff.  Needless to say, we went a little nuts in the market place in Batuu!  Totally worth it!

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Available shopping links are above so you can shop these looks yourself!

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Happy Shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

Happy 2020 and Happy Blogiversary to Us!

Happy New Year!

I hope everyone had an amazing time over the holidays.  We had a great time, and now we are looking forward to a new year of fashion!  There are some great new things coming up this year that we need to get ready for.  WonderCon, Spring Dapper Day and the opening of the Avengers Campus at Disney California Adventure.

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Until then, here’s a quick recap of my holiday trip to Disneyland (Benji had theatre and couldn’t make it.  Just want you all to know I’m not a jerk that went to Disneyland without my kid!)

I wore my Disney Dress Shop dress and silver holo ears.

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This dress is no longer available at shopdisney.com, but you can still get it on Amazon.  Same goes for the ears.

I had a great time enjoying the holiday decor, not to mention the treats.

So, here is our first outfit of the day for the year.  A year with tons of fashion adventures ahead. So, stay tuned…

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Until next time…

 

Love, Kim and Benji

Happy Blogiversary to Us!

This month marks the beginning of our fifth year blogging our adventures and fashion and adventures in fashion.

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We have so much to come this year, so please stay tuned!  We love and appreciate you all and your continued support.

Love, Kim and Benji

Here’s to Being Seen!

*This is a repost that will hopefully respark your confidence for the new year!  Here’s to an incredible 2020!!!

I recently went back to therapy.  I like to go every few years for a kind of “brain tune-up”.  This time around has been especially helpful.  My therapist just gets right to the heart of things quickly.

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Why am I telling you this?  Well, the other day I was at my appointment, and the subject of holidays came up.  I am not especially fond of any holiday except Halloween these days.  I don’t like Thanksgiving in particular, but it wasn’t always like that.

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When I was a kid, I liked all the holidays, including Thanksgiving.  After my Grandmother died, I stopped liking the holidays.  The holidays became this tense and unpleasant time where everyone complained about everyone else, and the energy was just plain… bad.

So, my therapist asked me what in particular was so great about the holidays when my Grandmother was still with us.  I told her about how it was my job to set the table.  I was my Grandmother’s assistant.  She would go to the china cabinet and get out this photo from a magazine of an elegant place setting, so I could copy it.  That photo always came out to help me during the holidays, and I just liked helping her.  I felt so proud, so important.

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Unfortunately, after my Grandfather passed, the family was packing up the house, and I couldn’t find the picture.  I was going to frame it.  So, that is why I really enjoyed the holidays, but I didn’t feel like I had communicated to my therapist why.  As usual, she knew exactly what I was trying to say.  “You were seen during those times.  She saw you.”  Wow, just wow.  Yes, that is exactly what it was!

My Grandmother always “saw” me.  She saw me when I was happy, sad, silly, whatever.  She loved me no matter which one of those people I was.

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Cut to today and my life as it is now.  It is pretty great, I gotta say.  I am seen.  I am living my best life.  I have a job I love.  I have a great home.  I have friends.  I have my writing to express myself.  I have a blog and a hobby that makes me happy.  I had no idea that my blog and cosplaying were my way of being “seen” again!

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Out of all of these great things in my life, most of all, I have a great kid.  Now that I know how to properly express it, let me say this.  My one job with him is to make sure that he is “seen”.  Everyday and in every way.  I think I already am, but I definitely will.  I will because of how great being seen made me feel when I was a kid, and I want that for my own kid now.

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So, first my Grandmother gave me a love of style and fashion, mid-century style in particular.  Then she “saw” me as I was.  Both of these gifts serve me well in my adult life.  Finding cosplay and blogging is a way to be seen, and my love of 50s style is a perfect fit for my cosplays.  I feel like she is still helping me.  I love how I continue to discover new ways to be grateful to my Grandmother.  What incredible gifts she gave me.

Helping you be seen is one of our goals here at inplainsight.style.  Let us know what you want to see to help you achieve that goal, so I can pass my Grandmother’s gift to me on to you!

So, here’s to being seen!

Love, Kim and Benji

*All pro photos by Justin Davidson Photography.  Book him here.