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Overcoming the Rude Reminders of Your Past

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There are times in life when we get rather rude reminders of our past pain.

Last week, I had one of those reminders. I got a nasty-gram in the form of a text from an ex. Sigh. I read it and the mild-PTSD kicked right in; the shaky hands, dizziness, panic sweat…the whole shebang.

But, for the first time, I came back to myself quickly, like, almost immediately. It was awesome! How the heck did I do that? Well…

I put the phone down and walked away for a minimum of five minutes. I took that time to remind myself of where I am now. Chiefly, not under the same roof with this person, so I did not have to desperately defend myself to no avail. This is no longer my life. I also used this time to think of where this nastiness is coming from. You know, the timeless Urkel question, “Did I do that?” I got real with myself and asked if I did do something wrong here that required an apology or remedy. I realized that this was an attempt to pile shit that isn’t mine on me. I tend to be very hard on myself, so if I do something wrong, I’m the last one on the planet to forgive it. So, I don’t have any issue with going, “Oh, my bad. Sorry.” Lastly, I thought of how to respond. I did apologize for upsetting him. Because I was unaware that what I had texted would upset him at all. That is all I said. Why? Because my second tip is…

Don’t engage. Just don’t do it, man. There is no point in picking apart the tirade and pointing out why he’s wrong, sentence by sentence. You are not going to “win”. You just aren’t.

My third tip for you is to contact someone supportive. I talked to friends and vented a bit. Friends are your best defense against the dreaded gas-light! Like I said, my mild PTSD kicked in, and part of that is immediately second guessing myself. Friends can help you distinguish between the ugly picture of you that has been painted by someone else, and the real picture. And while not a perfectly filtered picture, the no filter picture of you is quite lovely.

Why am I even writing about this? Well, while I did avert the crisis, it was like walking into your kitchen and seeing an elephant in there (not that an elephant would fit in my kitchen, but I digress). You see, my second act has been in full-swing for about six and a half years now, and the unpleasantness of the text last week is not a normal event in my life anymore. Besides the PTSD, an event like this triggers old memories, like a mini-haunting of a sort. Unfortunately, when these events trigger me, I will always have to process them.

I remembered that despite my ex thinking that dumping me would solve all his problems, it actually solved all of mine. The loss of that relationship sent me straight into an unexpected epic second act- full of fun, laughter, adventure and friends. Now, is my life perfect…Hell No! Nobody’s life is perfect. I have stress and strife. But, I am living my best life now. So, while the text from Hell was upsetting, the reminder of how far I’ve come, was not.

I’ll always be sad about the end of that relationship. Mostly because it really and truly did not have to be that way, and despite my best efforts, it did end up that way. As sad as that is, I am beautifully blessed and maybe a reminder of that, especially in the COVID-crazy-time, is exactly the kick in the pants that I need. I mean, it got me to sit down and write this today, didn’t it?

And if all of the above fails, might I suggest some sage…

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Black Widow Jacket

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To go along with my trip to Downtown Disney in my Disney Dress Shop Black Widow dress, I am sporting my Black Widow leather jacket from Hot Topic.

This jacket is size-inclusive, going up to a 5xl. I’m wearing a 4xl. It is a little roomy on me, but I like my jackets to fit a little bit bigger. I have big shoulders and I get more flexible movement if I go a size up.

I love all the pockets and the widow logo on the back. My belt is from Torrid. I added a widow belt buckle from Etsy. Leggings, boots and tee from Lane Bryant. Click on links to shop.

It is about time that Natasha got her own fashions!

Now, if we could finally see the movie…

Until next time…

xoxo

Kim

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A Much-Needed Trip to Downtown Disney

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With COVID cases finally declining, our Governor lifted stay-at-home orders and the ban on outside dining recently.

Boyfriend Bill and I took advantage of that and took a day off to go to Downtown Disney.

In addition, Disney has opened the main street and Hollywood section of Disney’s California Adventure for shopping.

I did make note of the fact that work has resumed on Avenger’s Campus, which makes me more happy than I could ever express. To celebrate that, I wore my Black Widow Disney Dress Shop dress by Her Universe.

I picked up one of the new Nuimos. Nuimos were a huge hit in Japan, and now they have made their way to the USA. They are fully posable with a variety of fashionable looks to choose from. I chose Daisy, cause, duck. I bought her a cute ensemble that makes her super stylish I think! Shop for Nuimos online here. It is also important to note that Her Universe will be designing everyday cosplay looks for Nuimos. So, your toys can bound too! Feel free to use a Team Build Checklist for them as well (wink)! Maybe I should make some tiny Team Build Checklists…

As always, the Disney Dress Shop dresses look amazing and are super comfortable. I love the design on this dress as well. And yes, there are pockets! Get your own dress here.

My beret is from Amazon. Pins are from Wish. Petticoat is also from Amazon. Chucks by Converse.

Happy Shopping and coming up, we are planning an adventure to Knott’s! Stay tuned…

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Skull and Crossbones Dress by Betsey Johnson

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Our latest outfit of the day comes from Torrid. Betsey Johnson has added more pieces to her collection for Torrid, including this fabulous skull and crossbones dress.

The dress is made from a stretch jersey, and could not be more comfortable.

The silhouette is classic Betsey, but you can also add a petticoat and more 50’s retro accessories to go more 50’s new look if you want.

I decided to go for a change of pace and really embrace the 80’s fabulousness of Betsey Johnson. I went with a fancy punk-inspired look here.

Get your own dress here. The belt is from Amazon. Fishnets from Snag Tights. Boots by Doc Marten.

Happy Shopping!

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Emperor’s New Groove

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Welcome to Kuzcotopia!

I’m so excited to share this new skirt from “The Emperor’s New Groove” by Her Universe for Hot Topic.

“The Emperor’s New Groove” has long been a favorite Disney movie of mine, and I am so glad to see that Hot Topic now has a whole line of clothing to celebrate it.

This skirt is size inclusive, up to a 5xl. It is available at both Her Universe and Hot Topic.

I love the vibrant color and the fabric is a super stretchy and comfy scuba, so it keeps its shape. I also love the length, which is just below the knee. You can turn it into a move vintage look by adding a petticoat.

My shirt is from Torrid. Click on links to buy.

It may not be complete with water slide, but darn it, it’s pretty awesome!

Happy Shopping!

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Shakespeare T-shirt with 80’s Style Blazer

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For our latest outfit of the day, I styled this new awesome t-shirt from Forever 21.

It’s not everyday that you find a t-shirt with Shakespeare on it.

The English nerd in me, snagged this immediately!

I styled it with an 80’s-inspired oversized blazer from Lane Bryant. I added pins to the lapel. Pins are my actual pins and buttons from the 80’s, with the exception of the ducky enamel pin, which is from our InPlainSight store. In addition, you can’t pose with a Shakespeare shirt and NOT have a skull on hand. Mine is from Michael’s. Click on links to buy.

Happy Shopping!

xoxo

Kim

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A Trip to Jurassic Quest!

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The kiddo and I recently had the opportunity to go to the drive-thru “safari” experience, Jurassic Quest!

It is simply a drive-thru animatronic dinosaurs, but it was a rare night out in the time of COVID.

We had an amazing time, and got some fun pics.

I wore my Dr. Alan Grant bound to the event. Skirt is from Retrolicious. Shirt is from Amazon as is the bandana. Pins are from Wish. Ducky pin from our InPlainSight store.

If you want to book your own safari, click here.

Happy Exploring!

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Black “New Look” Dress with Pink Accessories

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Our latest outfit of the day all comes from Amazon.

I love it when I find a look that is both size-inclusive and affordable.

This black dress fits me beautifully and gives me the “new look” silhouette that I absolutely love. The fabric is soft and has stretch. It is size inclusive, going up to a 4xl. The size chart is accurate in the photo gallery. Not only that, but the price is right at $32.99. Get your own on Amazon.

The rest of the look also comes from Amazon. Click on these links to buy the petticoat, belt and beret.

Happy Shopping!

xoxo

Kim

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Nerd Valentine’s Gift Guide

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We only have one week until Valentine’s Day, and I have put together a last-minute shopping guide for you.

Everything is from Amazon Prime, so you can get it in time for your Valentine!

Love Bot Print

This cute print is upcycled from Dictionary pages and is only $9.99!

Oxytocin Molecule T-Shirt

This t-shirt comes in a variety of colors and sizes (there is a men’s and women’s version). It is only $19.99.

Math Socks

These cute math socks are in a a great Valentine’s red and only $8.99!

Feisty Pets

Last, but not least are Feisty Pets. Every time I have given one of these as a gift, they have been a huge hit! Get Sir Growls-a-Lot above for only $21.99.

I hope that these gifts can save the day for your Valentine’s Day!

xoxo

Kim

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Outfit of the Day: Leopard Tulle Skirt by Betsey Johnson for Torrid

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Our next outfit of the day also comes from Torrid and their Betsey Johnson collection. In addition, it will make a great Valentine’s Day look.

I absolutely love this skirt! It is so comfortable and cute. I really love how it can be dressed up or down. So far, I’ve loved pairing it with t-shirts and moto jackets, but you can easily add a more formal blouse or sweater set for a more upscale look.

Get your own skirt from Torrid. My Avengers t-shirt is also from Torrid. The pink t-shirt is from Amazon. Pink moto jacket is from Eloquii. White sneakers from Fila. Leopard sneakers are from Converse. My new tricycle is from Ebay. Bowler hat is from Amazon. Click on all the links to buy.

Happy Shopping!

xoxo

Kim