Here’s to Being Seen!

I recently went back to therapy.  I like to go every few years for a kind of “brain tune-up”.  This time around has been especially helpful.  My therapist just gets right to the heart of things quickly.

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Why am I telling you this?  Well, the other day I was at my appointment, and the subject of holidays came up.  I am not especially fond of any holiday except Halloween these days.  I don’t like Thanksgiving in particular, but it wasn’t always like that.

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When I was a kid, I liked all the holidays, including Thanksgiving.  After my Grandmother died, I stopped liking the holidays.  The holidays became this tense and unpleasant time where everyone complained about everyone else, and the energy was just plain… bad.

So, my therapist asked me what in particular was so great about the holidays when my Grandmother was still with us.  I told her about how it was my job to set the table.  I was my Grandmother’s assistant.  She would go to the china cabinet and get out this photo from a magazine of an elegant place setting, so I could copy it.  That photo always came out to help me during the holidays, and I just liked helping her.  I felt so proud, so important.

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Unfortunately, after my Grandfather passed, the family was packing up the house, and I couldn’t find the picture.  I was going to frame it.  So, that is why I really enjoyed the holidays, but I didn’t feel like I had communicated to my therapist why.  As usual, she knew exactly what I was trying to say.  “You were seen during those times.  She saw you.”  Wow, just wow.  Yes, that is exactly what it was!

My Grandmother always “saw” me.  She saw me when I was happy, sad, silly, whatever.  She loved me no matter which one of those people I was.

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Cut to today and my life as it is now.  It is pretty great, I gotta say.  I am seen.  I am living my best life.  I have a job I love.  I have a great home.  I have friends.  I have my writing to express myself.  I have a blog and a hobby that makes me happy.  I had no idea that my blog and cosplaying were my way of being “seen” again!

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Out of all of these great things in my life, most of all, I have a great kid.  Now that I know how to properly express it, let me say this.  My one job with him is to make sure that he is “seen”.  Everyday and in every way.  I think I already am, but I definitely will.  I will because of how great being seen made me feel when I was a kid, and I want that for my own kid now.

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So, first my Grandmother gave me a love of style and fashion, mid-century style in particular.  Then she “saw” me as I was.  Both of these gifts serve me well in my adult life.  Finding cosplay and blogging is a way to be seen, and my love of 50s style is a perfect fit for my cosplays.  I feel like she is still helping me.  I love how I continue to discover new ways to be grateful to my Grandmother.  What incredible gifts she gave me.

Helping you be seen is one of our goals here at inplainsight.style.  Let us know what you want to see to help you achieve that goal, so I can pass my Grandmother’s gift to me on to you!

So, here’s to being seen!

Love, Kim and Benji

*All pro photos by Justin Davidson Photography.  Book him here.

I’ll Be in My Dressing Room!

I, like every other fashion-obsessed person, always wanted to have a big ‘ol closet.  I have a small closet at home that has always been a struggle to keep neat and tidy.  So, when the kiddo got old enough that he didn’t need a toy room anymore, I pounced on the opportunity to make-over the room into my own dressing room.

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We had the desk in the room already, so creating a vanity for myself was a simple task.  Just add a make-up mirror and some make-up, and I was good to go.  I kept the computer and printer in the room for the kiddo’s homework and for blogging too!  Get the lighted make-up mirror from AmazonThe desk is from WayfairThe chair is from Amazon.  I get my plexiglass make-up organizers from various places, but here is a good one on Amazon.

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This small wardrobe with shelving is a great place to display some of my handbags, and I use it for skirts and cardigans.  I use these Loungefly mini-backpacks for Cons and theme park visits because they hold everything I need, and they are super cute and great for bounding.  For Loungefly’s website, click hereThe wardrobe is from Target.

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This cube storage unit is from Target from ages ago.  I actually traded furniture from Benji here.  He obviously did not want pink furniture in his room anymore, and I love pink, so it worked out.  I replaced the pastel cubes with cubes from Dollar Tree.  The vignette on the wall I put together with items from the 99 Cent Store.  The bat light is from Amazon.

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The wicker high-boy is the first piece of furniture I ever bought for myself back in 1990.  I will have it always.  The shield I glittered it myself because my shield got all scratched up, so I rehabbed it.  Click here for instructions.

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This clothing rack is from Bed Bath and Beyond.  It has shoe storage below and a shelf on top.  I keep my dresses here because they are much heavier.  And finally, the large zip-up wardrobes hold our cosplays and we’ve had them forever.  We purchased them at Bed Bath and Beyond.

So, I took the room and built it wall by wall to give myself the dressing room of my dreams.  I hope I’ve inspired you to do a make-over of a space within your space.

Love, Kim and Benji

 

Shop Your Closet Challenge!

I don’t know about you, but I do love to save some money.  Problem is, I also love to shop for new nerdy-themed wardrobe items.  The good news/bad news in that is that now, more than ever before, we have really good choices!

But, let’s say there’s nothing new catching your fancy out there on the interwebs, but you still have an event coming up.  You need to put on something new.  What is a nerd to do?

Well, try shopping your closet.  I recently had WonderCon coming up, and I wanted to dress in dapper/pin-up styles the whole Con, but I didn’t have enough pieces.  I couldn’t find anything I liked really, so I decided to shop my closet.  After all, I have a ton of pieces, so maybe I could put together something with what I already had.  Guess what?  I did just that, and now I have a new go-to fave, this Black Widow bound!

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Here’s a Team Build break-down:

The LeaderSkirt from Amazon

The Brick– T-shirt and shrug from Torrid

The ScientistShoes by Converse

The ExoticArrow Necklace from AmazonBelt from Amazon

The Blaster– My everyday make-up look

The best way to do this is to take something you really like and challenge yourself to find something in your closet you’ve never paired it with before.  If you usually wear something with jeans, then try pairing it with a skirt and vice versa.

I put together pieces that I didn’t buy to go together here, for this Tony Stark bound…

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Here’s a break-down of this look:

The Leader– Jacket from Her Universe

The Brick– Dress by Steady Clothing

The ScientistShoes by Converse

The ExoticBelt from AmazonArc reactor necklace from Amazon

The Blaster– My everyday make-up look

I recently did a Team Build break-down of my bobby soxer Avenger look here.

Have some fun with it, and you’ll be surprised at what you find!

Feel free to download and print your own Team Build Checklist download and print your own Team Build Checklist here.

Let me know what you “find” that you already have in the comments.  We love to hear from you.

Happy closet shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

 

Disneyland After Dark: Heroes Assemble

I recently got to take part in my first ever Disneyland After Dark event, Heroes Assemble.

It was an amazing time!  The event took place at Disney’s California Adventure park in Anaheim.  All the heroes, ALL of them, were there for photo ops, which was just great.  Star Lord and the Guardians had a DJ’d dance party going on.  Ashley Eckstein from Her Universe was also there for a meet and greet.  The park had special themed food and drinks, including infinity churros!  I had a lovely boozy lemonade with red, white and blue stars sprinkled on top.  Yummy!  20190430_221440

I became a part of the collector’s collection…

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BF and I got to meet Doctor Strange…

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And I met Carol Danvers!!!!

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Now, let’s break down the fashion, shall we!

I did a basic pin-up style Captain Marvel bound for the event.  Here are the pieces:

The Leader and The Brick are one in the same here with the dress by Her Universe for Disney Dress Shop.

The Scientist are my trusty DIY saddle shoes.

The Exotic is my cardigan from Amazon.

The Blaster is my everday make-up and hair, but I really love this red lipstick from Revlon.  Get yours on Amazon here.

Print your own Team Build Checklist here.

That’s it!  Happy shopping and see you next time!

Love, Kim and Benji

We Saw “Avengers Endgame”!!!

Well, I mean, who hasn’t yet?  I will warn you that there are tons ‘o spoilers here, but it has been over a week since the movie’s release, so the spoiler-free zone is over!

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As always, here are some of our favorite moments from the film.  We aren’t movie reviewers, and we aren’t going to start trying to be one now!

So we are in the Endgame now…

  • The addition of Captain Marvel to the Avengers is amazing!
  • All of the remaining Avengers going to space
  • Nebula is the MVP for most of the film
  • Korg and Meek are OK!!!
  • Hulk with glasses and dad wardrobe is the best thing ever!
  • Time Travel!
  • Chunky Thor has been problematic for some, and I can understand why.  However, I liked that we saw how the five years had really affected him in a visual way.  It is also important to note that he was taken back on the team “as is”.  No magic weight loss or anything of the sort.  He is valuable at whatever size he is
  • When Nebula isn’t the MVP, the rat that released Ant Man is
  • Carol got my haircut
  • Now I have to SA cosplay Carol
  • Everything Rocket
  • Cap is worthy, but we already knew that
  • I think Loki is alive, fight me!
  • America’s ass
  • The convo between Tony and Howard
  • Girl squad moment
  • “Hey there, Peter Parker.  You got something for me there?” #iheartcarol
  • Cap finally got his dance
  • Captain Sam!

OK, those are just some of our favorite moments.  Please let us know yours in the comments.

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Now for wardrobe… Benji’s hoodie is from Amazon.  My bobby soxer Avenger cosplay build has the following pieces:

The LeaderAvengers bomber jacket from Torrid (online exclusive)

The BrickDress from Amazon

The ScientistMy DIY saddle shoes

The ExoticScarf from Amazon; Belt also from Amazon; Star Necklace from Amazon as well and Infinity Gauntlet bracelet from Hot Topic

The BlasterWore a nice red lip from Revlon called “Love Is On”

Print your own Team Build Checklist here.

Happy Shopping and until next time…

Love, Kim and Benji

Fashion Alert: Avengers Endgame Collection at Torrid

Recently Her Universe released a whole line of clothing for “Avengers Endgame” at Torrid and torrid.com.

I was lucky enough to nab two of my favorites, this dress…

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This dress fits perfectly, and I absolutely love the print on the skirt.

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And this jacket…

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This jacket is also perfection!  The jacket is a bomber-style jacket, but windbreaker weight, which is perfect for LA.  I want to wear it until I just can’t wear it anymore!!!

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Both are available in stores and at torrid.com.  Click this link to get your own!

There were a few other pieces that looked great as well, but I’m on a budget.

Happy Shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

 

Fashion Alert: Avengers Make-up at Ulta

While I wait for everyone to see “Avengers Endgame” this week, I thought I would highlight some great new products available at Ulta, in stores and online.

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They released a great make-up line inspired by “Avengers Endgame” with an eyeshadow pallet, four lip glosses, four matte lipsticks and three make-up bags.

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I got two of the make-up bags and love them!  I got the smallest one for my purse and the medium sized one for travel.

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I didn’t have an opportunity to try the eye shadows or the lip glosses, but the good word is that they are both great.

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I did get two shades of matte lipsticks.  Both have a nice feel, good amount of pigment and aren’t drying.  I tried them both, and they lasted all day.

Get your own loot at Ulta’s site here.

Happy Shopping!

Love, Kim and Benji

*All Photos: Ulta.com